A while back I wrote a post of positive affirmations for my first pregnancy. Recently, I’ve been struggling and overwhelmed with Motherhood in general and when the original paper I wrote my pregnancy affirmations on fell out of my journal, I knew what I needed to do. Some of the affirmations are the same but many are new. We mothers have the most amazing and, at times, overwhelming, job around. May these affirmations remind us to be kind and gentle with ourselves and, in so doing, teach our children to do the same.
I am enough. I am strong, wise, grounded, kind and patient.
I respect my need for alone time.
I ask for help easily and with an open heart.
I respect my limits and needs.
I love and accept myself just the way that I am.
I focus on the things that truly matter and let go of the rest.
I embrace an imperfect and messy but happy and love-filled life.
I am doing the best that I can and my best is good enough.
I am a great mother.
No matter what happens, everything is going to be alright.
First and foremost: if you don’t know what elimination communication is, you can read about it here, here, and here.
Second, I don’t feel like I can talk about our elimination communication journey without talking about our ‘diapering system.’ I really don’t like that name for it because it makes it sound intimidating and complicated when it’s really quite easy.
Our ‘Diaper System’ includes:
–osocozy unbleached prefold diapers (about 24-36): about half of our stash is size 1 and half is size 2. At around 15 lbs the size 1, according to my husband, are too small but I think they’re fine.
-homemade flannel wipes (about 24): I followed this tutorial here. This was a great first sewing project for me because it was easy and if I messed up it was okay because they were just going to be wiping a butt anyways.
-1 squirt bottle of water: I use this for wetting the wipes
-2 homemade fleece prefold belts: I followed these instructions. I only have two of two different sizes but I should probably make another bigger one.
-4 thirsties duo covers: before Ellie was born, I bought one of every cover I could find on Amazon. Thirsties ended up being the one that worked best for us. Because of the gussets on the legs, we’ve never had any spills outside of the cover. We have two of the small size and two of the bigger size (which she isn’t in yet).
-1 container of coconut oil for diaper rash: Y’all, it really does work.
-1 backpack aka diaper bag: this includes one wet bag for holding soiled diapers while we’re out and about and 1 peribottle for wetting wipes if there isn’t a sink handy.
homemade flannel wipes with hipster party robots
On a regular day at home Ellie wears just a prefold and diaper belt, no cover.
Ellie in her prefold and diaper belt (we use the ‘angel wing fold‘) Also. NOM NOM NOM TOES.
Having hardwood floors throughout our new home (we just moved last week) makes this easier since the prefold soaks everything up but the outside still becomes wet. Our old home had mostly carpet so I kept Ellie on a towel or playmat. But now that Ellie is in the pre-crawling stage and moving about quite a bit, I’m extra thankful for the hardwood floors.
Having just the prefold and belt at home is so much easier than having the cover on as well. This way, I just pull the front part of the diaper out of the belt and flip it backwards and she’s ready to EC.
At night, we put a cover over the prefold and belt to protect our bed. We used to only have a prefold and belt and her bottom half was on a folded up towel but we were going through 3-4 towels a night so we switched. We still use the towel method for naps even though she almost never goes during a nap. It’s more just a back up. We also put a cover on any time we leave the house.
Ellie in her Thirsties duo cover and T-shirt (btw, baby t-shirts are so hard to find!)
Now onto our elimination communication (EC) adventure. I didn’t start EC in earnest with Ellie until I emerged from my post partum fog around 1.5 months. I started out using mostly bowls and had a fair amount of success at night. I also had many misses. I guess you would have called us part time ECers.
After a while, Ellie started to use the restroom every two hours or so at night. Although cosleeping made it easier to respond to her needs vs a crib, we were all so exhausted. Eventually, exhaustion won and I became a lot less responsive at night and Ellie started to pee in her sleep and not even wake up for her diaper change. This is where we are currently with nighttime EC – nonexistent. And I am perfectly okay with that because it means we all get more sleep. Ellie still wiggles when she wets herself so her diaper is changed fairly quickly. She’s also gone down to only a couple of changes at night instead of 5 or 6. She’s also stopped having bowel movements at night which is awesome. She saves those for first thing in the morning now. 😉
Our EC during the day has also changed quite a bit. When we started looking for a house and then packing and moving, EC got put on the back burner and I would only catch once or twice a day, if that. We did, however, still change her diaper as soon as it was wet so she wouldn’t lose her sensitivity. And how would we know it was wet, you might ask. Ellie let us know… Loudly. 😉 At that point, we also switched to ECing over the toilet as this was easier than rinsing out bowls. The position I find easiest is a cradle hold while I sit backwards on the toilet. Although, as Ellie gets bigger, I think I’ll have to start using the tiny potty seat insert instead because I’ve nearly fallen off the toilet a couple of times. :/
Back to the story: The EC ‘slowdown’ went on for at least a month and coincided with Ellie’s new grunting noises which the husband and I found very perplexing. After the move a week ago, I have finally been able to get back to a more dedicated EC practice with Ellie. I was worried that Ellie would resist or have forgotten EC but I am happy to report that that is not the case. 🙂 In fact, sometimes after she’s gone, she’ll look at me and smile as if to say, “Finally!” And those ‘mysterious’ grunting noises? Yeah, she was trying to tell us she had to go! Some of the new rules I’m using and having success with are:
1. offer potty before and after sleep (including naps)
2. offer potty when I change her diaper (often times, she’s not done!)
Overall, I’m still thinking of EC as a fun experiment that has the added bonus of (usually) making our life easier and our daughter happier.
“The world is changing. We need to give children the permission and guidance to find a new way to gain the skills and experience necessary to build a good life, not just a successful career.” Yes, yes, and yes. Unschooling at its finest.
I’m not sure I could have said it any better so I’m linking it here. Enjoy!
This pregnancy, being our first, has been a whirlwind of changes and some fears have crept up in the process. Fear of judgment in my choices about parenting and birth. Fear that I’m not doing enough or not doing it right. Fear that things won’t go ‘perfectly’ or be what I think it should be. Fear that I won’t be strong enough to birth this baby. Fear that my body will betray me. Fear that I will betray myself.
After recognizing that all these fears were present (and bogus), I needed to put something better in their place and so I’ve created a few affirmations to do just that:
I am enough. I am strong, wise, and grounded.
I did my best and my best is enough.
I have done and am doing the best I can physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually for my baby and my best is good enough. This baby will be whole and healthy and exactly what this baby is meant to be.
I listen to my inner wise voice. I stand strong in my truth and power.
I love my body. I trust my body. I am grateful for my body. My body is enough.
My body is producing the perfect size baby for me to birth naturally and easily.
I listen to my inner wise voice and all is well.
I am strong and resilient. I persevere.
I have faith in my strength.
I love and accept myself just the way that I am.
I honor my inner wisdom and stand strong in my power and truth.
I am a good mother.
I love this baby. I honor this baby. I am so grateful for this baby.
I honor and embrace my excitement and joy for this baby.
Whether or not you are pregnant, may these affirmations help you to recognize how amazing and strong you are as well. <3